How to Introduce Toys to Your Partner

Are you excited to introduce sex toys to your relationship but not sure how to begin? It can be intimidating, especially if you’ve never done it with previous partners, but we have some great news for you. If you approach your lover with open communication, introducing sex toys can be something that enhances your relationship in ways you never knew you wanted. 

If you’re looking to explore new sensations with your partner and elevate all of your intimate experiences, Starship’s wide range of products are perfect for you.

Why Should I Introduce Toys to My Relationship?

You might think you don’t even need sex toys in your relationship. After all, sex already feels awesome. Maybe you and your partner have incredible, fulfilling sex every single time you hook up. But what you might not know is sex toys can transform intimacy in ways you might not expect.

Enhance Intimacy

Sex toys can add new thrills to your intimate life. They offer variety and new sensations that just aren’t achievable through sex alone. They can deepen your connection because they allow you to explore each other’s bodies in fresh ways. It’s the most erotic thing in the world when you watch your lover totally come apart beneath you while you use your brand new vibrator on them.

Encouraging Communication

Introducing toys gives you the opportunity to discuss sexual desires and boundaries with your lover. Maybe there are erogenous zones you really want to give some extra attention to, or things you’ve always craved doing to your lover you’ve never had the opportunity to ask about. Together you can build deeper trust and a stronger bond. These deep, intimate conversations will lead to hot sex that’s more fulfilling and exciting, because you know exactly what your partner is aching for.

It’s About Companionship, Not Replacement

Tons of people worry sex toys are meant to somehow replace them during intimacy. Luckily, this couldn’t be further from the truth! Toys are tools for enhancing pleasure and so we look at them as an addition to our intimate lives, not a substitution for anyone.

How to Talk About Sex Toys with Your Lover

One of the most nerve-wracking things about introducing toys is starting the conversation. But you don’t need to fear! Sit your lover down outside of an intimate setting and let them know you’d like to talk about your sex life.

Be Open and Honest

The best way to approach the conversation is with openness and honesty. Make sure you compliment your partner, telling them how much you value your intimate life and that you want to explore new things together. Reassure them that toys are meant to enhance your connection, never replace anything in your relationship.

Give them ideas of what kinds of toys you’re interested in and why, and ask them if they’ve ever considered using sex toys themselves. Tell them how sexy you think it’ll be to find new things that drive them wild and how excited you are to get to know their body even better.

Share Research or Shop Together

This is the perfect opportunity to do some research together and shop around. You can explore Starship’s website to find toys you’re both curious about. We even have an entire page dedicated to toys that are perfect for couples. Making the experience collaborative can help your partner feel more comfortable, like the two of you are approaching new things as a team rather than having something sprung on them out of nowhere.

Start Slow

If your partner seems hesitant, start slow. You don’t need to dive into using tons of toys immediately. Take your time discussing what you both like and dislike, and go from there. Plan a date night where you go to the adult store together and check out everything they have to offer. Putting your hands on some toys in real life, feeling the things they can offer and being lighthearted with your lover can do wonders to ease tension and help them relax.

Incorporating Sex Toys into Your Routine

Once you’ve had the conversation and both feel comfortable, the next step is incorporating toys into your routine. Get excited, this is the fun part!

Start During Foreplay

Toys don’t necessarily have to attend the main event right away. You can introduce them during foreplay to build excitement. For example, using a wand vibrator, stroker, or suction vibe can help turn you on before you move onto penetration or oral or whatever else you love doing together.

Masturbate Together

One way to make your partner feel more comfortable is by using toys at the same time. It can be really erotic to explore with mutual masturbation. While you use a vibrator on yourself, for example, maybe they could use a cock ring. Watch one another masturbate and tell each other how you’re feeling. This will build so much anticipation, you’ll be aching to get your hands on each other. 

Focus on Pleasure

Remember the goal of introducing toys is to enhance pleasure for both of you. Keep the focus on enjoying the sensations and the shared experience. Toys are meant to be fun, so embrace laughter, explore, and try new things.

Communicate Throughout

It’s important to communicate throughout the experience. Ask your partner how they’re feeling, what they’re enjoying, and if there’s anything they want to try differently. Communicate all of the incredible things you’re feeling and what you want to switch up. This will keep both of you comfortable while also building trust.

Choosing the Right Sex Toys for Beginners

Now that you know how to talk to your lover about sex toys and when to use them, it’s time to pick out some options! The key to successfully introducing sex toys for most relationships is to start small and simple. Beginner-friendly toys are super easy to use, which can make the whole experience much smoother. 

Starship Blooming Rose

The Starship Blooming Rose is perfect for solo and partnered lovin’. It uses innovative air technology to simulate the feeling of oral sex. If you’re having penetrative sex with your partner, you can use the Rose’s suction technology to stimulate any of their erogenous zones, from their nipples to their clitoris or anywhere else they love to be touched.

Dr. Skin 7” Dildo with Suction Cup

If you’re looking for something realistic, the Dr. Skin 7” Dildo with Suction Cup is a great choice. The sturdy suction cup base holds to any flat surface or fits a strap-on harness, which makes it perfect for anyone who doesn’t have a penis but still wants to penetrate their partner.

Starship Intimate Care Water-Based Lube

Lubricant is essential when using sex toys. Lube makes toys safer, more comfortable, and more pleasurable to use. Using Starship’s Intimate Care Water-Based Lube is a perfect recipe for smooth, enjoyable play. Since it’s water-based, it’s safe for use with all toy materials. When shopping for lubricant, it’s important not to pair silicone-based lubes with silicone toys.

Starship Mini G

Compact and easy to use, the Starship Mini G is designed for targeted pleasure. The flat head is perfectly crafted to caress your G-Spot as it rumbles away inside of you. Its small size makes it perfect for traveling, meaning you can toss it in your suitcase and bring it along on a romantic getaway with ease. 

Sensuelle Bobbii 69 Functions

For those couples looking to keep things exciting for a long time to come, the Sensuelle Bobbii offers 69 functions of deep, throbbing, and pulsating action. Plus this power-packed bullet is flexible, allowing it to adjust it to your unique shape.

How to Introduce Toys to Your Partner

Introducing toys to your partner can be a wonderful way to explore new sensations, enhance intimacy, and build communication. With a delicate approach, it can be a fun and pleasurable experience that brings you closer together.