A Beginner’s Guide to Backdoor Play

Anal play might sound a little intimidating at first, but guess what? With the right tips and products, it can be super enjoyable and even a game-changer. Whether you're flying solo or playing with a partner, butt play introduces a new world of pleasure.

This guide will walk you through everything you need to know, like:

• How to start anal play safely (no stress, we promise!)
• Why anal lube is your new best friend
• Tips for the most comfortable anal play
• The best anal toys for beginners to try

Why Try Anal Play?

Your booty is packed with nerve endings, which means it’s full of potential for amazing sensations. For folks with prostates, it can lead to mind-blowing orgasms, and for everyone, the feeling of fullness and relaxation can be extremely pleasurable.

How to Have Safe, Fun Anal

A little prep goes a long way! Here’s how to make sure your experience is smooth (literally) and enjoyable:

Communication and Consent

Communication is key. Discuss boundaries beforehand, and always have a safe word if needed. Remember: anyone can pause or stop play at any time.

Hygiene Matters

A quick bathroom trip beforehand helps. You can use a douche if you want, but be careful not to use one that contains laxatives. Warm water and a gentle clean-up are totally fine. No need to overthink it!

Why is Lube Non-Negotiable?

Your anus doesn’t self-lubricate, so a good-quality anal lube is going to be your best friend. Skip anything with numbing agents, you want to feel everything (both pleasure and your body’s pain signals) to keep things safe and enjoyable. It’s important to be able to feel pains that arise during anal, because doing so lets you know when to slow down or stop.

What are the Best Beginner Friendly Anal Products?

Wicked Jelle Plus

A silky, long-lasting water-based lube made just for anal play. It’s thick, reduces friction, and even has clove oil and jojoba to help you relax without numbing any sensation.

Luxe Discover Vibrating Plug

Perfect for first-timers! This sleek silicone plug has a tapered design for easy insertion and gentle vibrations for extra fun. Plus, the flared base prevents the toy from getting stuck.

Starship Moon Rocks Rose

 

No vibrations? No problem! This petite, gorgeous plug is ideal for beginners (and looks as good as it feels).

Hercules Rotating P-Spot Massager

If prostate play is on your radar, this rotating massager is a dream. Adjustable speeds mean you can customize your pleasure just how you like it.

Step-by-Step Guide to First-Time Anal Play

New to anal? No worries! Just take it slow, breathe, and enjoy the ride.

1. Start with foreplay, relaxation is key!
2. Lube up (and keep reapplying. Seriously, don’t be shy).
3. Begin small, fingers or a tiny toy (like the small Moon Rocks plug) are great starters.
4. Breathe deeply to help your muscles relax.
5. Go slow. If something hurts, pause and adjust.
6. Try different positions (missionary or spooning are beginner-friendly).
7. Clean up afterward. Warm water and toy cleaner keep things fresh for next time.

Common Mistakes to Avoid

A few easy slip-ups can make things way less fun, so here’s what not to do:

1. Skipping lube (spit is not enough. Trust us).
2. Using numbing creams (pain is your body’s way of saying "slow down").
3. Rushing into penetration (take your time, pleasure isn’t a race!).

Final Tip: Relax and Have Fun!

Anal play should never hurt. If it does, slow down, use your finger or a smaller toy to gently and slowly stretch your anus, glob on the lube, or take a break. The more relaxed you are, the better it feels. Excited to explore? Grab some lube, pick a beginner-friendly toy, and enjoy the journey!