When you hear “Sexual Health,” do you immediately think about sexually transmitted infections and an awkward phone call to your last partner if you test positive? If so, you're not alone. But it’s time to rewire that thinking! Sexual health and wellness go way deeper than STIs, and testing positive isn’t the end of the world or your sex life.
How to Celebrate Sexual Health Month
Since September is Sexual Health and Wellness Month, now is the perfect time to take stock of all the ways you prioritize personal pleasure and think of new things to add to your self-care repertoire. Do you need new toys for your toy box? Or maybe an exciting sensation lube to spice up your intimate life? We’re here with all of the best tips to help you celebrate Sexual Health and Wellness Month in your own style.
Learn More About Your Fantasies
A great way to enjoy Sexual Health Month is to explore your sexuality and the things that bring you pleasure! One great method for learning more about your own fantasies is to read erotica. Characters in spicy books get up to things you might have never dreamt up in your life, and they can be super hot.
Want to heat up bath time? You could try using a detachable shower head to stimulate yourself or even bring your favorite waterproof toys along with you.
If you have a partner, you could ask them about the things they like. They might have some things up their sleeve that will rock your world. Or talk to your friends about their desires! Ask them what toys they like and if there are any things they do to get themselves in the mood.
Talking openly about sex with the people closest to us is a wonderful way to bring more pleasure into our lives and destigmatize sex at the same time. There’s sexy inspiration all around us if we just know where to look for it.
Try Role Play
Sexual Health Month is the best time to expand your horizons. Role play is a wonderful way to do that! You can immerse yourself in a character, which can help free your inhibitions and lead to you doing things you didn’t think you were capable of. It’s way easier for some people not to be embarrassed or nervous of doing something when you’re playing a character.
The possibilities for role play are only limited by your own imagination! Whether you want to play a plumber who is coming to clean out your partner’s pipes or a sexy doctor giving them their annual checkup or even a stranger who meets their love interest at a random bar, it’s all up to you!
While most people think of role play only in terms of partnered intimacy, did you know you can have fun role playing on your own? Our imaginations are very powerful (and very sexy). One of our favorite ways to solo role play is with some scorching hot audio erotica. Play along with your virtual partner! Really let yourself sink into their world and get lost in endless amounts of pleasure.
There are as many kinks under the sun as there are people! You might believe you’re vanilla (which is another word for someone who doesn’t have any kinks- and that’s totally cool too!) because you’ve never discovered the things that make you wild.
For example, have you ever heard of knismolagnia? It’s also known as the tickling kink! It’s not super-well known, but for the people who love it, they really love it. You don’t even have to use traditional means of tickling. You can try exploring sensations with feathers, vibrators, or pretty much anything that makes you tingle.
Your new favorite kink could be a simple Google search away! Take some time to invest in yourself and your own desires. You’ll be happy you did.
Try New Positions
Explore new positions during sex, but be prepared to laugh! Trying new positions isn’t always as easy as it seems, and you might fail a few times before getting it right. This makes exploring a fun and intimate experience. Being able to laugh things off and try again is vital for trying new things in bed and deepening your connection with your lover(s).
The Butterfly sex position has the receiving partner lay back on a slightly elevated surface like a bed or table and tilt their hips upward. It offers deep penetration and keeps hands free for stimulating all the other erogenous zones. This is an amazing way to modify the missionary position and give it a bit more oomph.
The Rocking Horse is incredible for G-spot stimulation. When you’re doing this position, the receiving partner will sit between the giver’s legs, with the receiving partner’s legs nearly wrapped around them. Both partners rock into each other. This position gives you a lot of control when it comes to depth of penetration while also allowing tons of intimate eye contact and holding one another close.
Is Non Monogamy for You?
Being healthy sexually doesn’t just mean settling down with one sexual partner for the rest of your life. In fact, it’s totally possible to have sex with lots of different people and be totally sexually healthy! Monogamy isn’t for everyone and that’s perfectly okay. As long as you practice consensual, safe sex, there is nothing to be embarrassed or ashamed of.
This could mean attending a group sex session or having multiple one-night stands or even being in a committed relationship with more than one person. As long as everyone is informed and on the same page, you should feel free to express yourself sexually and pursue pleasure in the ways that feel right to you.
Help End the Stigma
Another way to observe Sexual Health Month is to help end the stigma and find ways to help your community. One way to help end the stigma is to stop using words like “dirty” or “clean” when referring to STIs. Avoid jokes about STIs and learn about how common and manageable STIs are. According to WebMD, “The U.S. tallied 2.5 million STD cases in 2021. Among the STDs, chlamydia, gonorrhea, syphilis, and congenital syphilis cases combined were up 4.4% in 2021.” The number seems to rise yearly, and STIs are highly treatable and common. There’s no reason to be ashamed, so open up the conversation with friends and family.
Best Adult Products
Our first recommendation is always to pick up a nice lubricant. There can be some stigma around using lube, and we’re here to help deconstruct that thinking. Everyone can benefit from using lubricants and they can bring tons of new fun sensations to you and your partner! The first lube in our lineup is Sensuva's Ultra Stimulating Insane Lube Ice 4oz. This cooling and stimulating lube is free of glycerin, parabens, and scents, and is vegan-friendly. Vulva owners can feel an especially intense sensation when using it internally and it creates a feeling of movement within the body!
Now that we’ve covered cooling, what about warming? Our recommendation for a warming lube is Sliquid's Sizzle Warming Lube 4.2oz. This water-based lube is condom-compatible, glycerin and paraben-free, great for sensitive skin, and vegan-friendly. What we love most about this lube is it’s made with food-grade menthol and it has the effect of being both warming and cooling!
Another fun product to try out in the bedroom is Earthly Body's Tropical Massage Oil Trio 2oz. This tropical trio includes banana, mango, and pineapple flavors, and is made with all-natural ingredients. These massage oils moisturize your skin and have a slightly warming effect! Some of the ingredients included in these oils are soybean, coconut, hemp seed, apricot, jojoba and avocado oils, and nourishing Vitamin E.
Vulva owners, tune in here! We would like to introduce you to Satisfyer's Curvy 1 Clit Stimulator. The Curvy 1 is sure to please your clit with a balance of air-pulse stimulation and intense vibrations. Its app offers endless possibilities of pleasure and the toy itself is equipped with 11 pressure wave intensities, 11 vibration settings, and whisper mode, for times when you want to keep it low-key. It’s easy to clean, waterproof, and has magnetic USB charging capabilities. It also comes with a 15 year warranty on its two powerful motors.
Penis owners, we didn’t forget about you! We think you’d love to try Fleshlight's Vibro Pink Lady. Unlike the original Fleshlight, this sleeve has three bullet vibration points to intensify an already amazing experience. It’s wireless and battery powered so you can take it on the go! The inside of the toy is made with Fleshlight’s signature touch texture SuperSkyn sleeve.
If you’re searching for a couple’s toy, meet Starship’s Hypernova Vibrating Wand. One of our favorite features of Starship’s own vibrating wand is that it is very quiet without compromising any of its power! It’s equipped with eight powerful speeds that will intensify your playtime! The tip is made with high-quality, body-safe silicone and this toy is wireless and completely water-proof, so you can make a steamy couple’s bath even hotter.