Your Guide to Barriers: Condoms, Dams, and More

When it comes to intimacy, being prepared is one of the best ways to feel more present, connected, and at ease. Barriers, like condoms and dental dams, are often framed as a "necessary hassle," but we want to change that narrative. The right barrier, paired with the right lube, can actually enhance sensation, reduce anxiety around sex, and open the door to more kinds of play. 

TL;DR

Dental dams are a simple, effective way to reduce STI risk during oral play, whether vaginal or anal. They work even better with a little Starship Intimate Care Hybrid Lube underneath the dam to boost sensation and comfort. 
Condoms come in more varieties than ever. From latex to non-latex options like polyisoprene or polyurethane, finding the right fit and material makes all the difference for both your safety and your enjoyment. 
Internal condoms (sometimes referred to as female condoms) offer another flexible option. They can even be inserted ahead of time, work well with water-based lubes, and are a great choice for anyone with latex allergies. 
Lube is essential. A hybrid lube like Starship Intimate Care plays nicely with latex and non-latex barriers, helps reduce friction, and keeps everything comfortable so you can stay in the moment. 

What Are Dental Dams?

A dental dam is a thin sheet made of latex, or sometimes silicone, that is used as a barrier during oral-vaginal or oral-anal sex. They’re one of the most effective safe sex tools for reducing the transmission of STIs during oral play, yet they’re often overlooked. 

How Do You Use a Dental Dam?

You want to start by making sure the dental dam doesn’t have any damage to it. Don’t stretch or pull on the latex too hard, you don’t want to tear it. Remove it from the packaging and take off the protective cover (if applicable). Place the dam over your vulva or anus before oral stimulation. Be sure to hold the dam in place so it doesn’t shift during the fun. You can make the experience even better by adding Starship Intimate Care Hybrid Lube under the dam to increase sensation. 

Dental Dams and STI Protection

Dental dams provide a reliable barrier against many STIs transmitted through oral contact, including herpes, HPV, syphilis, and gonorrhea. When used consistently and correctly, they significantly reduce risk while allowing you to stay focused on pleasure. 

What If I Don’t Have a Dam on Hand?

If you don’t have a dental dam on hand but the mood is already set, you can create your own from a latex condom or glove. Simply cut off the tip of the closed end of the condom or glove (meaning the fingers) and the base, then cut down the side to allow the condom or glove to lay flat. It’s best to do this with non-flavored or lubricated condoms. Be sure to clean off any corn starch or powder sometimes used on latex gloves.

What Are the Different Types of Condoms?

Condoms are one of the most researched and trusted forms of protection available. Today’s options go far beyond the basic drugstore variety. Understanding the types of condoms available can help you find one that feels comfortable and works for your body.

Latex Condoms

Latex condoms are the most common and offer excellent protection against STIs and pregnancy when used correctly. They’re reliable, affordable, and come in countless textures, sizes, and styles. 

Non-Latex Condoms

For those with a latex sensitivity or allergy, non-latex options made from polyisoprene or polyurethane are a great alternative. Polyisoprene condoms offer a soft, stretchy feel similar to latex without the protein that causes the allergic reaction. Polyurethane condoms are thinner and conduct heat well, which some users prefer for heightened sensation. 

Size Matters

One of the most overlooked parts of any condom guide is the fit. A condom that’s too tight can be uncomfortable for the wearer, and can be more prone to breakage due to friction and stretch. A condom that’s too loose may slip off during sex, potentially staying inside the vagina or anus. Most condom brands offer standard, snug, and larger sizes. Taking a moment to find the right fit makes a significant difference in both safety and enjoyment.

Internal Condoms

Also sometimes referred to as female condoms, these are worn inside the vagina or anus rather than on a penis or toy. They’re typically made of nitrile, so they’re safe for anyone with a latex allergy. Internal condoms provide protection against STIs and pregnancy and can be inserted ahead of time, allowing for more spontaneity. They’re also compatible with water-based lubes. 

How NOT to Use Barriers

Even the best safe sex products won’t work as intended if they’re used incorrectly or paired with incompatible products. 

What Products Should Never Be Used with Barriers

• Oil-based lubes (like coconut oil, petroleum jelly, or body oils) should never be used with latex condoms or dams. Oil breaks down latex, causing tears or holes. If you’re using non-latex options like polyurethane or nitrile, oil-based lubes are generally safe. A good rule of thumb is to always double check the packaging to confirm compatibility.
• Doubling up condoms (wearing two at once) might seem like double the protection, but it actually increases friction, which raises the risk of breakage. Stick to one at a time.
• Sharp objects like scissors or teeth when opening your barrier or condom can cause accidental damage. Always tear carefully or use scissors with extra caution to avoid accidental nicks. 

How to Properly Store Barriers

Barriers (whether condoms or dental dams) should be stored in a cool, dry place away from direct sunlight and extreme temperatures. Avoid keeping them in glove compartments, wallets, or anywhere that could be subject to constant friction or heat. Always check expiration dates before use, because expired barriers are more likely to fail. 

A Note About Lubrication

Lubes aren’t just an add-on, they’re an essential part of using barriers effectively and efficiently. Friction can cause condoms or dams to shift and/or tear, while the right lube reduces that friction, increases sensation, and makes the entire experience smoother. 

We recommend Starship’s Intimate Care hybrid lube for use with either condoms or dental dams. It combines the long-lasting feel of silicone lubes with the easy cleanup of a water-based formula. The best part is, it’s compatible with latex and non-latex options! A small drop inside a condom can increase sensation for the wearer, while a few drops on the dam can reduce friction and increase heighten sensation of the receiving partner. It’s a simple addition that makes a noticeable difference! 

Make Pleasure More Enjoyable

Barriers don’t have to feel like a mood killer. With the right knowledge and good quality products, they can become a seamless, even enjoyable part of your intimate life. Whether you’re exploring what dental dams are for the first time or building out your collection of different types of condoms, having options on hand means you’re prepared to prioritize both pleasure and peace of mind.  

Disclaimer: This blog post is for educational purposes only and is not a substitute for professional medical advice. Always consult your doctor with any health concerns.