Your Guide to Sexual Wellness Resolutions That Stick

Coming up with a New Year’s resolution can feel like a lot of negatives: drink less, spend less, eat less, scroll less. So, what if this year you focus on a resolution that can give you more? More joy, more curiosity, more sensations in your life. 

Welcome to your new year intimacy goals and sexual wellness resolutions! This is about making a promise to yourself to explore pleasure as a joyful, integral part of your own self-care sexual wellness journey. And we’re here to help you make goals you’ll actually enjoy keeping. 

 TL;DR:

• Ditch the pressure. Sexual wellness resolutions aren’t about “more sex” or performance, they’re about adding more curiosity, joy, and mindful self-discovery to your life.
• Make a realistic plan. Use our simple 3-step framework: 
  1) Get specific with your intentions. 
  2) Turn exploration into a self-care routine. 
  3) Focus on sensation, not destination. 
• Start simple. Beginner-friendly tools like the Starship Ambience Vibe, Intimate Care Lube, or the all-in-one Naughty Beginners Kit are designed to remove intimidation and make your first steps fun and comfortable.
• Your first mission: Block 20 minutes for a “Sensation Date” with yourself this week. The only goal? To notice how good it feels to tune in. 

What ARE Sexual Wellness Resolutions? (Hint: It’s Not About Performance)

Having a sexual wellness resolution doesn’t just mean “more sex.” It’s a holistic part of your wellbeing that includes mindfulness, self-knowledge, communication, and pleasure. The goal is to tune into your own body and desires without rules or a set script.  

Your sexual wellness resolution could be something simple like “I want to get to know my own body’s responses better.” This could mean finally understanding what kind of touch makes you excited, or giving yourself permission to explore new sensations without the pressure of having to finish. Do your best to embrace curiosity. 

How to Make a Resolution That Actually Sticks 

Steer away from rigid, hard rules. Focus on building pleasure-positive intentions with this framework: 

1. Get Specific 

Forget about vague ambitions that could mean multiple things (i.e: “have better sex”). Instead, consider clear intentions with a specific goal. For example, “I want to dedicate 30 minutes a week to mindful self-touch” or “I want to explore one new sensation each month.” This could be a great way to explore between pressure versus vibration, light versus aggressive touch, or rubbing versus patting. 

2. Make It a Ritual, Not a Chore.

Think about this journey as an addition to existing self-care. Set a sensual atmosphere for yourself by lighting a candle, putting on a playlist, and dressing in something that makes you feel good. This is a date with yourself. Just like any good date, comfort is key. Having a trusty sidekick, like Intimate Care Waterbased Lube, paired with your favorite toys can transform the experience from “okay” to “oh wow.” 

Starship’s Intimate Care Waterbased Lube

3. Focus on Sensation, Not Destination.

The goal isn’t to have an orgasm (but if it happens, enjoy!), it’s to notice the feelings. What does that warmth feel like? Do you feel tension releasing? Does your body react differently to different sensations? This mindset will take the pressure off yourself, and instead put the pleasure on yourself. 

How to Explore Pleasure (The Fun Part!)

We’ve set the stage, so let’s see those resolutions in action.

Resolution Idea: “I want to learn what kinds of touch I actually like.”

If you’re curious about vibration and wondering how to start using a vibrator, the key is to begin gently. Explore different pressures, textures, and rhythms. Start with a vibrator that isn’t intimidating. Look for something designed for beginners: think small, quiet, with simple controls that feel friendly, not overwhelming. The Starship Ambience Vibe is the perfect beginner sex toy.

Starship Ambience Vibe

Resolution Idea: “I want to prioritize comfort and reduce friction (literally and figuratively).”

 

This is your sign to make intimate care non-negotiable. A high-quality lubricant isn’t a last resort; it’s a pleasure multiplier and a comfort essential. A water-based, body-safe lube that matches your body’s natural pH is a perfect addition to any routine, making every touch smoother and more intentional.

Pro Tip: The “Try a Bit of Everything” Shortcut

Naughty Beginners Kit

Feeling curious but totally overwhelmed by choices? You’re not alone. Sometimes, the hardest part of exploring pleasure is just knowing where to start. That’s why we love starter kits, they remove the decision paralysis. Something like the Naughty Beginners Kit acts as a tasting menu for your pleasure journey. With carefully selected toys and even a fun game to play with a partner, it’s the ultimate shortcut for the curious beginner.

Your First Resolution Check-In (The No-Pressure Start)

Your mission this week, should you choose to accept it, is delightfully simple:

Browse with Curiosity: Spend 10 minutes browsing our pleasure guides page or taking our toys quiz to see what interests you. 
Schedule a “Sensation Date”: Block 20 minutes in your calendar for yourself. Use a favorite moisturizing oil or a gentle lubricant and give yourself a mindful massage—just on your shoulders, thighs, hands—anywhere. The only goal is to notice how it feels.

Remember, the most important resolution is to be kind and curious with yourself. Every little exploration counts. This year, let your wellness journey include wonders, not just weights. Your pleasure is worth investing in.