Mastering Cunnilingus: Tips and Tricks

If you ask us, oral sex is one of the greatest pleasures on the planet. If you want to get better at going down on people who have vulvas, this is the article for you!

1. Communication Is Key

Cunnilingus will never have a one-size-fits-all master key. That’s just not how sex works in any form, and oral is no different. Each partner is different. Every person’s body responds differently. This is why communication is the most important part of sex. When you’re listening for your partner’s feedback, you’ll inevitably be better at giving them pleasure. Communication during sex is about so much more than just the words we say. It’s about listening to your partner’s body language. Try to tune in to the things their body is telling you they like, and give them more of that. If they’re tugging on your hair and pulling you closer, that’s a safe bet that you’re going in the right direction, friend. 

2. Start With Teasing

Just like with all forms of sex, foreplay is your best friend. Start by teasing and enticing them until they’re begging you for more. And then, if you want to make it extra special, tease them a little more. Don’t go straight for their clitoris. Show attention to their thighs, their stomach, their labia. Get them warmed up and soon they’ll be raring to go.

3. Take It Slow

Once it’s time to start the main event, remember to take things nice and slow. This is a marathon, not a sprint. Try using the different sections of your tongue and see how they respond. Some people might love for you to use the tip of your tongue while others prefer the flat. Or maybe even a mixture of both. Learn what they crave and give them just enough of it so that they are going out of their mind. If you think they’re getting close to orgasm, back off and tease them a little more. 

4. Don’t Forget The Hands

You can use your fingers to simulate them internally. A couple of fingers and that all-too-famous come-hither motion could have them weak in the knees. Try to find their g-spot. Trust us, it’s worth the search. It will be located in the front of their vagina (so think closer to their belly than their bum), and relatively high up. Once you’ve found it, you’ll know.

5. Let Them Know You’re Having Fun

It can be so erotic to know that your partner enjoys going down on you. If you moan while performing oral, the vibrations from your voice can do incredible things for your partner. You can tell them how great they taste or how sexy you think their smell is. All of these things can help your partner really get into the moment with you and lose their insecurities.

6. Use Flavored Lubes

There are tons of products that can make oral even more incredible. Flavored lubes can entice your senses and keep you excited to go down on them for ages. After all, even if you love their natural taste, switching things up can keep you both begging for more.

7. People With Vulvas Can Have More Than One Orgasm – Give Them More

There’s no reason to stop after just one orgasm as long as both you and your partner are game to keep going! You can make them orgasm over and over again. It’s one of our favorite ways to spend an evening, actually.

Oral is so much fun and it’s a great way to connect with your partner. Do you prefer giving or receiving?