What is Orgasm Control? Try Edging for Heightened Sensation

If you’re interested in BDSM, chances are you’ve heard of orgasm control, also known as “edging.” But what is it, exactly? 

What Is Edging? 

Orgasm control is when someone (either yourself or your sexual partner) brings you to the edge of orgasm but does not allow you to actually finish. This delayed pleasure can lead to incredible orgasms later on. Building excitement over and over again and having the resolution denied heightens sensation and can drive you wild. 

Try It Solo Or With A Partner 

Orgasm control can be done solo or with your partner(s). If you’re interested in trying it out on your own, you may have to build up a bit of self-control. It can be difficult getting so close to the edge and not letting yourself go over it, but trust us when we say it’ll be so worth it in the end. To get going, start masturbating like you normally would. Do all those delicious little things that get you where you want to go. Once you’re right at the edge, stop what you’re doing. Once you’re not teetering on the edge any longer, get back to it. Do this as many times as you want to, then finally let go and allow yourself to orgasm. Edging is a great way to take your solo play from normal to mind-blowing.

Discuss Expectations Beforehand

If you’re allowing your partner to be in control of your orgasms, it’s a good idea to talk it out beforehand. Talk about your limits, what you’re comfortable with, and how long you think you’d like the session to last. You might even want to create a signal word to let your partner know that you can’t take any more teasing and need to finish as soon as possible. And as always, establishing a safe word is a great practice to keep your play safe and fun for everyone involved.